It’s interesting to ask people how they met. Each story is unique. God has many ways of bringing people together. Moses was watering some camels and ended up marrying the oldest daughter of the man who owned the wells. Boaz paid off a distant relative’s debt by buying their land and got Ruth along with it. The Benjaminites grabbed women at a party and carried them off. Jacob worked 7 years for Rachel and got another woman on his wedding night (her sister). Xerxes held a beauty contest and married the winner, Esther. Hosea married the woman God chose for him but she had children by other men and ended up in prostitution. And a man named Salmon married a Gentile women from Jericho whose name was Rahab. Tradition identifies Salmon (Matthew 1:5) as one of the two spies Rahab hid in Jericho.
It was unheard of for a woman to be mentioned in the genealogies of Israel, but Rahab is listed as a great-grandmother of King David and an ancestor of Jesus Himself (Matthew 1:5-6). She never thought God had a plan for her that included such things. She never imagined being married to a Jew, either. Yet that was God’s plan for her.
Seldom does anyone look at their life and say that it played itself out as they had expected. Virtually all of us are surprised by the turns and twists that come along. Still, life doesn’t just ‘happen.’ God has a perfect plan for each of us. He chose these things even before the creation of the world. This includes the person we marry. Sometimes we think they are the greatest blessing in the world, other times we may wonder if we made a mistake in whom we chose. But if we are following the Lord we know that He did the choosing and He never makes mistakes. If your marriage is going very well – thank Him. If there are struggles and difficulties, remember that this is the mate He chose (or allowed) for you and it is now His perfect will for you to grow together. Thank Him for it. He put you and your mate together to be a picture of heaven on earth, to live out in a daily way His love for us as His bride. Follow His example in this and, no matter how strange a start your marriage had, it is guaranteed a happy ending!
Ephesians 5:25-33 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
When is the last time you thanked God for your mate?
What can you do to be a better husband or wife?
Think of someone who is having marriage problems and pray for them.
cto Rev. Dr. JERRY SCHMOYER
Christian Training Organization
Jerry@ChristianTrainingOrganization.org
(India, Africa & Spanish Outreach, Spiritual Warfare, Family Ministries, Counseling, World View)
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