MOSES – ANGER WITHOUT SIN

By Rev. Dr. Jerry Schmoyer  jerry@schmoyer.net 

  http://india.christiantrainingonline.org/

 

INTRODUCTION:  PROBLEM with male anger today:

Road rage, rape, violent crime rise, aggression, bullies –problem today

 

I. AGE 40

 

A. RIGHTEOUS INDIGNATION

        Treatment of Jews in slavery

        Anger positive motivator: guilt, fear, jealousy

      Jesus temple (weave whip)

        Work not fair, child hurt, people to God

        Kill guard

 

B. SINFUL ANGER

        1. MALE ANGER – MOSES

        Men few emotions, all turns to anger

        Anger in sports, war, competition, stand up for self good

        Never learned/taught, poor examples

        Frustrated, afraid of anger, not know what to do, guilty

        WRONG

             EXPLOSION  blow up

             IMPLOSION   clam up

                Ulcers, nerves, sarcasm, passive-aggressive,

                                withdraw, depressed, suicide

                        “I didn’t keep it in …

 

        2. CAPTURE CONTROL

        2nd emotion. Tree/root

        self-focus: pride, not get own way  Hatshepsut

        man: power, control, attention when angry

        “frustrated” cut off in car; older not accomplish so blame

        Cain Abel; Ahab Naboth; Ahasuerus Vashti; Haman       

                Kill guard        Flee Thutmose III – anger at Moses

Cure: CONCEDE CONTROL  yield, trust God, serve, patience

        FRUIT: peace, gentleness, self-control

C. RIGHTEOUS INDIGNATION

        Rescue Zipporah and others at well

God teach patience, 40 ys with sheep

 

II. AGE 80  (retest)

 

A. SINFUL ANGER      

 

1. HIDE HURT

        Physically – Hammer finger

        Balaam, donkey rub leg against stone wall

        Paul slapped by guards, talks smart to HP

        Emotionally – Criticism, rejection, hurt others back

        Samson when wife killed

        Alexander the Great & Cletus

        Burning bush “what if”

 

        Cure: HANDLE HURT feel the pain, forgive the person

        Forgive: Jews; God (angry at God); self (depress, dest)

        Unforgiveness, bitterness –

        others (past), said/done to hurt (who comes to mind?)

        God – let down, promotion, parent died, lonely

        Self – fail as mate, friend, parent        

        FRUIT: love, patience, goodness               

        I need to forgive, seems Zipporah needed to forgive me

 

2. FEMALE ANGER – ZIPPORAH

        Passive-wild: Ab-Sarah; Isaac-Rebecca; Jacob-Rachel

        Men fear angry women (manipulated by mother)

        Hurt so control by anger to avoid pain

                boys, physical strength

                girls – emotional strength

        Hatshepsut strong-willed woman, anger to control

                Wife same: Zipporah first born, no brothers

 

3. HIDE HURT

        Husband gone all the time

        Suddenly leave family

        HANDLE HURT  feel sorrow, grieve, forgive

 

4. CAPTURE CONTROL

Fear: unknown, leave family, live with unknown, lose control

 GOD ANGRYRIGHTEOUS INDIGNATION

        Bloody jerk, (angry woman = insecure of love)

– Sarah, not trust man

        Women: what really behind anger?  List hurts, fears

        Out of control find 1 to supr control: house, $, children

Left with sons  (substitute for husband, control them, bad for all)

 

CONCEDE CONTROL  trust God to work thru husband

Moses not out-anger her to ‘win’ (no one wins)

ANGRY AT MOSES:

Zipporah, Jews, Pharaoh – follow God, others not understand

       

B. RIGHTEOUS INDIGNATION

        Ex 11 = furious with Pharaoh (between plagues 9 & 10)

        Amenhotep II, son of Thutmose III and Neferure

        Break 10 commandments

        Right indig, then too far – rewrite 10 comm

        Right indig for self easy into sin (hide hurt, capt cont)

                Justify anger, blame other

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“Now I wish I could tell you my story had a happy ending”

 

III. AGE 120

       

Learned to concede control

CAPTURE CONTROL   Hit rock 2x  

“most humble man ever” – still pride raises up – accountable

 

CONCEDE CONTROL  God patient, we must be, too

        Not into Promised land – only blotch on my record

IV. LESSONS

                       

A. TO SELF

What can you do to help your anger?           

 

When RIGHTEOUS INDIGNATION

        Be angry but don’t sin

        WWJD, ask God to help handle it right

        Use right, act, motivated to do right

 

SINFUL ANGER:

 

        HIDE HURTHANDLE HURT   feel pain, forgive

        Forgive because Jesus forgave you (pare forg serv)

                                PLAN OF SALVATION

        Miriam criticize, leprosy

        Woman: anger out through tongue, – different phone ring

        Prov 15:1 gentle away wrath, harsh word stirs anger

        Anger or forgiveness – mainly at family

        Men: past: father, mother (Zipporah), grade school

 

        CAPTURE CONTROL   CONCEDE CONTROL 

        Admit, Confess the PRIDE, FEAR control

        Kadesh Barnea, want to kill and return to Egypt

        Women: use anger for children to listen

        Woman: hard time trust, use anger to control – TRUST!

 

        HOLY SPIRIT – only way to do this!

Gal 5:22  But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,  

 

B. TO MATE

How wife can help you when angry?:

Be friend, supporter, not criticize like mother,

listen, don’t bail out, pray

Not nag, hurt; give necessary control (submit), like before mar

 

 

How you can help angry wife:

What is she afraid of?  What hurt her?

Is insecurity causing her to try and control things?

Meet needs: security, apologize, etc

C t O Rev. Dr. JERRY SCHMOYER
Christian Training Organization
jerry@ChristianTrainingOrganization.org
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